The Power of Femininity

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Welcome back lovelies! This post serves as a follow-up to the previous discussion regarding the elements that make up the Sacred Fem-I-Nine. All that it entails and the nature of this divine energy cannot be expressed in one post. So, I will always refer back to the “what” of Femininity and how it shows up or should show-up in our lives. Words cannot capture the true essence of the feminine but I will do my very best.

Ok, ladies this post focuses on the POWER of the feminine essence.

When we think of the word “power” or someone who is powerful…what images conjure up in our minds? Do we see power as something soft and meek? Do we see it as virtuous? As love or grace? Do we see power as something feminine?

Based on my observations it is safe to say that many of us do not. The majority of us associate power with the masculine essence, and that my lovelies, is part of the problem. That is not to say masculinity is not powerful…it is very powerful and very sacred…but so is the feminine. Many of us have traded in our feminine power for the masculine because we have been led to believe that strength only exists in the masculine. We believe that respect and success can only be obtained through masculine energy–and so, we begin to take on masculine qualities and characteristics.

Ladies, we do not have to do what our men do or have what they have in order to be powerful. We are powerful in our own right as they are in their own right. If we don’t see ourselves as powerful and valuable in being just who we are, then neither will anyone else.

As feminine women our power rests in the simple fact that we are not the same, but different from our masculine complements. There is power in the way we walk, communicate, submit (yes ladies, submission is not a bad thing…will discuss in future post ๐Ÿ˜‰). Our softness, warmth, fluidity, and understanding makes us powerful.

Many of us feel powerful when we are angry, aggressive, mean, harsh. Ladies, our ability to change and influence the world through love and peace is our true power. To be able to connect with others beyond the physical but spirit to spirit–even those that may rub us the wrong way.

As feminine women we naturally attract whatever it is we desire. The feminine energy that exudes is like a magnet drawing things to us. We attract love, abundance and prosperity just by being who we are. Beloved, you will notice people just wanting to give you things…men will instinctively respect you and protect you…blessings will continuously flow in your direction. This is POWER ladies–the power of femininity.

Many of my sistas in the Black Power Movement, have lost their feminine essence. We think we have to be hard, rough and tough in order to promote and support the growth and development of the Black community. We think we have to be on the front line of the battlefield and we walk around looking like we are ready for combat. We feel powerful in claiming matriarchy as a rightful place in our culture. My darlings, our men do not need us to fight their wars. They do not need competition for a place on the battlefield or in their homes. What they need is our love and support. They need our feminine energy to serve as a complement to their masculine. There is power in the feminine ladies, and we need to use our feminine power as a means of having a different approach to the same problem.

The power of femininity is in our innerstanding and appreciation of the masculine, as being different yet complementary to the feminine, creating the perfect balance. It is here we find our true power and value. My sistas, will you join me on this sacred journey towards feminine love and acceptance? ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

Blessed Love,

Seshet Oya


What is the Sacred Fem-I-Nine?

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Ok, ladies…I’ve been talking a lot about the Sacred Feminine but you’re probably wondering what that actually means. What is the Sacred Feminine? Well, lovelies femininity is energy. It is an essence–the intrinsic nature of our human existence. Feminine energy is the polar complement (not opposite because we are not in opposition) to Masculine energy. The majority of women regardless of race or ethnicity are naturally feminine at their core. FEMales are born with an innate feminine code that women learn to unlock throughout their journey of womanhood. Like language, the art of femininity must be cultivated and developed. Actually, femininity is a language of its own–one that has been passed down from older women to younger women throughout generations. Though, the majority of women are naturally feminine at their core, being a woman does not automatically make one feminine. Meaning, not all women have tapped into their femininity. In today’s society, the promotion of femininity is seldom so women have become disconnected and alienated from their true essence.

The feminine essence is unique–it is sacred. The more we push for sameness masquerading as equality, the more we lose our uniqueness.ย Well lovelies, what makes the feminine sacred or unique? Let’s look at the word Fem-I-Nine…the word itself speaks to who and what we are. It says…I am a FEMale who has unlocked her sacred femininity (Nine). The number 9 in numerology represents the feminine essence also known as Yin energy. The number 6 represents the sacred masculine (Yang). (I will discuss this further in another post ๐Ÿ˜‰). A feminine woman leads with her intuition. Her feelings govern her thoughts and actions. She is love. She is peace. Feminine women are filled with an inner joy and passion. Her life is filled with favor and abundance. She is graceful, elegant, soft, meek. The sacred feminine is receptive and mysterious. It is fluid–flowing effortlessly and is ever changing. The authenticity, vulnerability and openness of a feminine woman triggers the natural instinct of the sacred masculine to guide, provide and protect her. Sistas, when we are in our Ma’atic state of mind we fully embrace our divine purpose; we understand our value and importance as sacred feminine women. Darlings, we love and honor the creator when we truly love and honor ourselves.

One of the lies that women have been led to believe is that femininity is some construct drummed up by men who wish to oppress us. This is dangerous because women are taught to trade in their feminine essence for a masculine one. Femininity in the modern world is viewed as a symbol of weakness–one who is unintelligent and unsuccessful. We are taught to trade in our intuition for formal education. We are taught to trade in our gentleness, vulnerability and fluidity, and instead, our strength is determined by how aggressive, guarded and rigid we can be. We are no longer led by our feelings…our intelligence is measured by how much we can think…how much we can be in our heads. This might work for the masculine essence my darlings, but it does not work for us. Our capacity to feelย is where our strength and intelligence lies. We associate our feminine essence with oppression and inferiority. We have allowed our fears, beliefs and experiences to devalue our femininity. We spend our whole lives trying to prove that we are just as valuable as a man that we inadvertently become one. Beloved, this is not a judgement against you, I am simply here to help my sistas rediscover their value and purpose as sacred feminine women.

I am proud to be feminine and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I feel safe, strong and whole in my feminine, and so should you, beloved. We are not meant to be the same, and that is what makes our connection with the masculine one that works. We don’t have to be in the masculine to be just as valued–just as important. As feminine women we are connected to everyone and everything. We bring truth, balance and restoration (Maat). It is our divine purpose to heal the world–spreading love, joy and peace upon the earth. The world needs us sistas, we must return to our rightful place. The time is now! We live in a society that knows our power as feminine women, which is why they seek to destroy us. But we shall rise again my sistas, because now we too know our power and place in the world. If you wish to live a life of truth and purpose…Join me in this sacred journey towards self-fulfillment. My beautiful feminine women, will you travel with me? ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

Blessed Love,

Seshet Oya

The Awakening Pt 3

Hello Lovelies!

This is the final part of The Awakening Series. I have shared a lot of vital information with you ladies, so please be sure to fill your hearts with this wonderful message!

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In my previous posts I talked about the “whats” in regards to my awakening–what I learned–what I experienced–what I studied. In this final part of The Awakening series I would like to delve a little deeper into how I arrived at this point in my life. Well, lovelies like many of us I am naturally feminine at my core. I was quite different from many of the women in my family and community. I was often told that I was too soft–how I needed to be strong and tough if I didn’t want to be taken advantage of. I was made to think my femininity was a sign of weakness. If only I could work harder, move faster–be arrogant, combative, brazen, harsh–I would somehow be better off–I would be in control. Being strong meant I had to be all of these things–I had to be more masculine. My darlings, this is in no way a judgement of the masculine–I speak in love and acceptance of the masculine essence. What I’m saying beloved is that I didn’t have to search for strength outside of myself–my strength was in my femininity.

My journey towards self discovery began about five years ago. I took a couple of Women’s Studies courses throughout my college years that made me begin to question the Feminist Movement. As my historical and cultural consciousness expanded my focus shifted. I became interested in the relationship between Black women and feminism and its impact on the Black community. This interest of course led to more studying and exploring, which happened both inside and outside the classroom. I began to dig deeper into womanhood, gender and family as it relates to the Black African woman–my search continued to expand until I came into the understanding of the sacred feminine. Magnificent women such as Queen Afua, Shahrazad Ali, Molesey Crawford and Namaste Moore–to name a few–were my distant teachers. Though, I’ve never met these beautiful women–I have learned a great deal from their works. Their messages resonated with me because internally I already understood what they were saying to be true. Like many of us, I just needed a reminder. I needed to rediscover what had been lost. I needed to reclaim my sacred throne.

My environment taught me quite a bit as well. I watched the women around me suffer in silence–physically and emotionally. I’ve witnessed hardworking, overburdened, career-driven women suffer with different health issues. I know of many Black women who suffer from diseases that attack their wombs–friboids, tumors, cysts. Darlings, our precious bodies are not meant to carry all of the stress and burdens we place upon ourselves. Our spiritual and emotional bodies are in constant turmoil as we continue to search for a little bit of happiness and peace. Beloved, there is nothing outside–nothing in the external that can give us that–it must begin from within. I chose to love myself so much that I would live a life of self-fulfillment by any means necessary. I chose to find value within myself–within my femininity. The world is unbalanced–operating more and more in the masculine as the feminine becomes more and more devalued. Darlings, we must restore the Ying and Yang–the sacred polarity.

Theย most challenging part of my journey was undoing all the conditioning. Having to let go of the ideas and beliefs that no longer served me. Finding my beloved King helped me tie up some of those loose ends. My King is very strong in his masculine and I’ve learned a lot from my relationship with him. Our relationship endured many trials and tribulations that allowed me to put all that I’ve learned into practice. Because he is so strong in his masculine I had no choice but to be strong in my feminine (that is if I wanted to keep him ๐Ÿ˜‰). You see beloved, I was one of those sistas who asked for a strong Black King but when I found him I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t think it was safe to be in my feminine (after all it’s one of the lies I’ve been led to belief) so instead, I turned to what I’d been conditioned to think was best. I am thankful that my King was so patient in dealing with all of my crazy lol and I truly love him for it. ๐Ÿ˜ Those challenges only made us stronger as individuals and as a couple.

Though, I have come a long way the journey has not ended. There is no end point for me to reach because life is all about growth and improvement. There is always room to be better, greater, more spectacular. The work is never done lovelies. I am still growing and developing into my feminine essence. I am awakened and I will continue to travel this sacred path. My sistas, are you willing to travel with me? ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

Thank you for tuning in…Until next time…๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’–

Blessed Love,

Seshet Oya